Redefining Motherhood: Finding Courage in Our Imperfections

The journey of motherhood spans six years for me, and yet, I find it just as challenging as when I started. Unlike some mothers who manage a handful of kids, I have one child, but the struggle remains very real. Despite leaving my full-time job to create a more flexible schedule, I still find myself grappling with insufficient time and energy to fulfill my motherly duties. I've diligently sought guidance from various sources - watching videos, reading articles and blogs, and following parenting experts. I've even embraced gentle parenting, and recently, respectful and conscious parenting, but still, I find myself succumbing to impatience and frustration on a regular basis.

Perhaps some people are naturally more adept at motherhood, and I may not be among them. It's possible that my temperament and personality aren't ideally suited for the role of a "good mother." But then again, what defines a good mother? I often feel like I'm falling short on most days, constantly questioning my abilities.

While reading about the struggles of other moms might provide temporary solace by reassuring me that I'm not alone in this challenge, I've come to realize that comparing ourselves to others is not a constructive approach. Each of us faces unique difficulties and has our own vulnerabilities. What bothers me may not affect another mom in the same way. For example, my strong desire for cleanliness can lead to inner turmoil when my child forgets to wash hands with soap after using the toilet. While my husband might find my nagging irritating, my son might not be as bothered. Nevertheless, I acknowledge the need to control myself and remember that not every situation requires an urgent response.

I can't help but wonder if there are moms out there who excel at this game of motherhood. Perhaps those with a strong support network or financial means to hire additional help find it easier to maintain their sanity. However, I recognize that true motherhood prowess isn't solely determined by external factors. It's about the shared feeling of helplessness that stems from our earnest desire to be the best for our children.

We all strive to improve and become better versions of ourselves for our kids, and the struggle to meet society's standards of what a capable, caring, and respectful mother should be can be overwhelming. But in the end, I believe that being a good mother doesn't rely on having everything figured out or having the perfect circumstances. What truly matters is our unwavering commitment to trying our best. And that, I believe, is more than good enough.